Ok so my feelings are hurt and maybe not justified--but my hubby got me NOTHING for Christmas!?

Mostly my feelings are hurt--I had money to spend this year, he started a job last year after his plant closed down and is making half of what he used to, but because I had some saved and am working I%26#039;ve been paying the majority of the bills. I guess I thought he would get me a little something (a box of candy would%26#039;ve been enough--a pair of socks--even a card!!!). I bought everything for the kids, his family, my family (not that there are that many but--), dinner, etc. The last gift I got from him was 3 years ago--and it was a teakettle. I don%26#039;t mean to sound materialistic but doggone!!! I work everyday, come straight home, cook dinner, house is clean, laundry is done. It%26#039;s not so much getting something as my feelings were really hurt!!! So should I just let it go and get over it? Well, guess I have to but---would you????

Ok so my feelings are hurt and maybe not justified--but my hubby got me NOTHING for Christmas!?
I feel your pain, I know its not what you get its the thought that really matters.





My husband is the same way on Holidays and occasions. I do all the shopping for everyone else, kids family exc, Something would be nice.





I really dont think they mean any harm by it, or at least I dont want to think they do.
Reply:I agree, Men are just men. They dont think about things like we do. I just know if I want something I have to out and out tell him exactly what and where it is and if im blunt enough I might get it.





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Reply:Tell him that you would appreciate him acknowledging you with a gift on gift-giving occasions. Explain that it doesn%26#039;t have to be expensive, but you want tangible evidence that he is thinking of you and appreciates you. Ask and you shall receive. Be prepared that he will hold you to the inexpensive part!
Reply:This is what you saying..... ´Its not the gift that counts but the thought´ And he didnt even think about it! Right?


We all know that Christmas is a time of joy and love and everyone, everyone likes to receive presents. Its human. I would be hurt as well, if i didnt get anything. I would also go to him and tell him that you hurt, make it clear that you not angry at him, but you hurt. You have done your best to make him happy and he didnt even get you anything. Explain to him that its the thought...the thought of giving you something that would of made all the difference. Its not like you were expecting something that costs thousands and thousands but even if it was something small. Be it € 3 or € 100, thats not the point, the point is that you would of liked for him to remember you at this time of year.


I hope that helps.....
Reply:OK,


I guess he is not a giver.


Don%26#039;t give him nothing then let%26#039;s see how he act.
Reply:..... is this question for real?..... No one could be that stupid!.... If this question is genuine,...... that is totally,.. totally,... unacceptable..... If finance%26#039;s were tight or none were available at the time, what happened to a bunch of flower%26#039;s ( even if yuh had to pinch some from someone%26#039;s garden ) or cooking a little cheap dinner for you and your%26#039;e woman, and chucking in a lot of extra cuddle%26#039;s or something...... If this question%26#039;s for real....... that suck%26#039;s dude!....
Reply:Of course you are hurt. Who wouldn%26#039;t be? Tell your husband in a calm voice that you were disappointed and hurt that he did not get you anything for Christmas. Explain to him it would not have to be expensive but just something to let you know he cared enough to think about you. Some men just don%26#039;t get it. They need to be told in simple terms what it is that would make a woman feel loved and special. Just tell him that next Christmas, Anniversary, or Birthday that you would love for him to get you a little something even if it is just a card or dinner at a restaurant.
Reply:i would slap his big dopey head-and say listen up-then say everything you just wrote in that question-you are well spoken-tell him how you feel and feel free to call him a big jerk.
Reply:I would be a bit hurt. He is making some money and you are paying the bills which means he had a little money he could have spent on you. It sounds to me he is totally taking advantage of you in every way. This is sad to me seeing how you have kept your family from going under and put food on the table and made sure your kids had a Merry Christmas and what has he done? Not only can he not pay the bills he can%26#039;t even get you a thank you present for Christmas to show how much he appreciates you feeding his ***. Well what%26#039;s done is done I guess. Did you get him anything for Christmas? If you did what did he say when you gave it to him and he gave you nothing?
Reply:My feelings would be hurt too but how would you feel if you had gotten a broken nose for Christmas. Imagine how I feel.
Reply:Now, hold up-wait. What does he do around the house? He can help you out with that, you know.





Besides that, I know how it is when money is tight. I wouldn%26#039;t just let it go. You need to tell him your feelings are hurt.
Reply:I would ask him about it...He knew Christmas was coming, he could have saved up!
Reply:I understand what your going through, I%26#039;ve been with my husband 7 years married for 3 and he%26#039;s only bought me 3 things in the last 7 years! You have to tell him how you feel, and let him know it wasn%26#039;t the fact you didn%26#039;t get anything it was the feeling that he didn%26#039;t care enough to think about you. My husband doens%26#039;t believe in holidays, mabey he%26#039;s the same way and needs a nudge, when he does wake up it%26#039;ll be worth it, got a bluetooth this year, 1st present in 3 years!
Reply:maybe,he%26#039;s going to surprise you with one on new year%26#039;s eve
Reply:You say the last gift was three years ago. So this holiday must not mean much to him or something more than giving presents.





Also this year he is making less. If you are doing everything he probably has a lot more on his mind than buying a box of candy.
Reply:I can honestly tell you that I would not let it go! I would definitely bring it up in the next conversation. Afterall, you do deserve to feel some appreciation for your hardwork. Go ahead and mentionit to him. I would!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:You have been walking around with a %26quot;doormat%26quot; sign on your forehead for too long. You have been doing all these things for your husband, and instead of appreciating you and everything you do, he has obviously taken that to mean that you are a sucker and can be taken for granted. It%26#039;s time to show him otherwise.
Reply:Honestly ... join the crowd gf,i got my hubby 3 shirts and 3 pair of really nice jeans from Wal-Mart the shirts was $30.00 a a piece,and the jeans was $30.00 a pair(that`s $180.00--all together) ...and he got me NOTHING,not even a Christmas card.So do like i do hon be grateful you have one another and be satisfied with the love that ya`ll share,and thank God that you have that and one another to love and cherish that......BUT he could have got you SOMETHING !!!!!!!!!!!!! SOME MEN I TELL YA...LOL


I hope your New Years is better for you sweetie.


You take care and have a great night.
Reply:discuss it with him.
Reply:My husband and I do not buy each other anything for christmas but we have agreed on that together. The reason is that we spend so much on our kids and others and throughout the year on ourselves that we just need to budget during this time and it means more to us to spend on our kids then each other. We do go out alot together w/o the kids though. We feel it is more important to show our love through actions rather then through the almighty dollar. I feel guilty when he buys something for me since I can not do the same for him since I%26#039;m a stay home mom and he spends enough on me w/my horses. Some guys are just not shoppers and really dont know what to get. Shallow excuse I know but maybe just talk to him about it. Come to an agreement that works for the 2 of you.
Reply:I understand! but if you don%26#039;t say anything. you won%26#039;t get anything next year either. everyone needs something for christmas even if it%26#039;s just a card! wanna talk? my e-mail is lilkismet73@yahoo.com
Reply:That is so insensitive of your hubby. I would definitely talk to him about his not taking the time to think of you and get you something for Christmas. Hopefully he is just clueless and will make up for it big time.





Good Luck.
Reply:You need to have a discussion with your husband. Tell him you are hurt. He probably doesn%26#039;t even realize he did anything wrong.





Communication is the key to every good marriage.
Reply:I should be really honest with you now ..





I would let it go ,my husband also cares for everyone and wants to make them happy more than me ,and I always let it go ,I rather get nothing than giving the most expensive gift by complaining ..if you understand what I mean!
Reply:I would not let it go. Let him know that you still expect a gift. He had one gift to buy and he didn%26#039;t. What nerve.
Reply:Lady, you do not need to justify your feelings! You are justified in felling hurt/disappointed. There are NO excuses! Sharing gifts is as much a part of American society/culture/way of life as the Flag is to symbolizing our Nation.





From birth, on, most Americans share gifts with each other at Christmas time.





If your husband, chose to ignore your feelings, that calls into question his feelings towards you!





More, I dare not write.
Reply:I would talk to him about it, I don%26#039;t think any harm was meant and he might not even realize what he did/or hasn%26#039;t done. If you don%26#039;t say anything it will continue to happen...the fact that he is not making the money he used to he might be feeling a little low...so you have to say something...Its not the gift but the thought...


Many blessings to you and your marriage



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